Everyone wants to be happy. But To become a happy person, you must first identify the emotions that make you feel bad and learn to transform them into positive ones. These toxic emotions deprive you of happiness. It’s time to face them, understand them and overcome them to become happy person. First and foremost – you must do self-analysis! Every day! Analyze your own actions, your own sentences – how do they portray you? How do they make other people feel around you? Do not analyze others, analyze yourself!
- Toxic jealousy:
Jealousy is related to the fear of losing someone. And while it’s okay to care for your loved ones and sometimes being jealous, the feeling becomes toxic when you start to threaten, control, and forbid them. How to deal with? Establish a simple law of respect and understanding: Everything you respect will be held close to you, and everything you do not respect – eventually going away.
- Toxic anxiety:
Anxiety usually occurs when you feel insecure and endangered. These toxic feelings grow in your body and mind, making you feel discouraged and even depressed. Other symptoms include fear, lack of concentration / self-esteem and insomnia. How to deal with? First learn to think about what you feel. Use the brain. How do I feel? Why? What is the reason? Necessarily identify the sources of your anxiety. Choose a physical activity and make it a regular routine, at least once a week. Surround yourself with positive people.
- Toxic denial:
Denial can adversely affect your ability to face challenges. It produces deep pain and trouble to accept yourself as you are. It will just poison you. How to deal with? Learn to love yourself and always remember – you are absolutely unique, different and different from any other person on the planet – there simply cannot be two identical brains and a system of emotions.
- Constant pain and stress:
This creates a continuous state of discomfort, sadness and regret. It can change the way you listen and talk, and even influence decision making. It can paralyze you, affect you and the people around you and your whole future. How to deal with? Remember the positive memories of the past, your accomplishments, beautiful moments, the things that made you proud of yourself. These things can inspire you to face your problems and the battles of the present. Keep in mind that there are situations in life that you can influence, but there are those that you cannot change and simply do not depend on you. You need to learn to reconcile with them, whatever it may be.
- Toxic guilt:
It is very important to distinguish between true guilt (when you really made a mistake) and toxic one (a sense of guilt that comes from emotional causes). How to deal with? If you have made a mistake, ask them to forgive you and continue to highlight the result. When you feel guilty and ask for forgiveness, this means that you are aware of your actions and take responsibility for what you have done.
- Chronic dissatisfaction:
Dissatisfaction becomes toxic when it starts to get into your life permanently. An occasional sense of dissatisfaction can motivate you to work harder on yourself, but chronic dissatisfaction will make you constantly search for a standard of perfection that does not exist, leaving you angry that you cannot reach. How to deal with? Accept yourself as you are and do not even try to meet the expectations that others expect of you. Discover the power of negative thoughts and experiences and do not let it rule you. Learn from mistakes, leave them in the past and continue ahead.
- Chronic grief:
When you do not know how to deal with a loss or other tragedy in your life, you may find yourself in an emotional hell of stagnation. This will not allow you to regain control of your life. Remember that you cannot expect everyone around you to understand how you feel. Such pain is very difficult to understand. But going through such a pain is necessary for the recovery process, so do not suppress the emotions – share them with your loved ones. How to deal with? Learn to forgive and forget. Only by forgiveness will you be able to close that door from the past, to continue your life and start planning your future.
- Toxic addiction:
This emotion will transform you into an emotionally manipulative person and make you have a low self-esteem. It sends you false signals that you cannot achieve everything you want because you cannot even leave it and you will soon begin to feel insecure in yourself, in your power to be independent of something, to hesitate about your abilities. How to deal with? Make sure your plans and goals are your number one priority. Learn to solve conflicts with yourself and acknowledge your own mistakes. Forget “I cannot, I do not know” and enter “I will learn” in life.
- Toxic frustration:
This makes you angry and upset. You can not live your whole life trying to please others. Realize that the greatest value is your dignity and self-control over your own life. How to deal with? Focus on your own success, think about all your positive sides. Give yourself permission to make mistake. Never give up working on yourself.
- Toxic anger:
In certain situations, a well-driven sense of anger can actually help you to overcome the difficulties. But constant anger, like resentment, can make you violent and miserable. How to deal with? I will say again, THINK ABOUT THESE thoughts, actions, and words. Think about your anger and find your way to control it. Always keep in your head that the best way to deal with anger is through wisdom and consciousness. You must decide what message you send to everyone around you when you are angry.
- Serious depression:
This is one of the most dangerous emotions that you can experience. Severe depression is a complete change in your mood and condition of your mind that affects all areas of your life. Sometimes you may feel as if there is no reason to live. How to deal with? Start by changing the way you think and how you perceive yourself. Learn to think and speak positively. Realize that your past mistakes are part of your personal development and advancement. Get away from people who do not support you or hurt you in any way.
- Toxic envy:
Toxic envy does not make you a happier person. But more importantly, this emotion causes others around you to suffer. If you can not rejoice in the success of others, the happiness of others, the beauty of others, you will sink into bitterness and it will be impossible for you to deal with a situation in which your friends are happy and feeling good, and it is even more unthinkable that you may find yourself in such situation, but probably you won’t. How to deal with? Learn to discover and appreciate what makes you a special and unique personality. Learn to dream and visualize your dreams.
- Toxic shame:
The obsession and fear that you will look ridiculous before others, or not well enough, is most often motivated by the fear that they will leave you. Shame paralyzes you and prevents you from fulfilling your goals and dreams. It’s important to realize that anyone who tries to embarrass you is doing it because of their own insecurity. Happy, stable people do not see the flaws in others and do not emphasize them, they see the good things. How to deal with? Understand that anyone who tries to embarrass you, offend you or make you feel bad only does it because it feels intimidated, threatened by you. Learn to laugh at your own mistakes. Realize that if you make a mistake it won’t be the end of the world.
- Toxic fear:
Fear that you have failed to overcome in life can only keep you back. You need to find the origin of your fear and make you face it and not let it overcome you. How to deal with? Think of whatever happens, and the worst-case scenario, you are capable of solving the problem. Think about the solutions of the worst scenes. Thus, your thoughts of fear will become the thoughts of solutions.